Best Friend Drifting Apart

The topic during my ride to office was about best friend drifting apart. She was telling me her story when she had to take care of all her 13 family members, being the sole bread winner. Whenever the festive season month such as Chinese New Year's approaching, she will have to manage her salary well in order to buy all her brothers, sisters and parents new clothes and food items for the festival. Everytime, she will ended up no money to buy anything for herself. She told me luciky she has 2 best friends from work who will new year apparrel for her, without fell every year. Aunty said they drifted apart when she decided to work in Singapore. She said she has no choice because she needed the money to support her family. Since then, she and her best friends drift apart and after a while, they didn't contact each others anymore.

What causes 2 best friends to drift apart considering there was never a fight or quarrel? Well, I guess most friendships and best friends are based on a mutually beneficial relationship. You enjoy each other's company, enjoying doing similar things, having the same goal and interests and these make your friendship grow. Unfortunately, nothing stands still. Once the priorities, interests and needs change, 2 best friends will start drifting apart. Subsequently, both friends change. No matter how you want to keep and hold that friendship, it will never be the same once change.

Life long friends are thoses whom we can relate growing up with, sharing a common experience and can't be shared with new friends made. These are the friends you will keep in touch for years down the lane. Unfortunately, friends come and go too often. I guess when our goals change, so does friendship.

Like my friend said, close friends never last long, and it's truth. I took me a while to understand but I do now. Along our life's journey, we have to make new friends and look for new close friends. Best friends are difficult to find and I think that's why we have a lot of casual friends or just colleagues. Once the purpose of the casual friendship is complete, the friendship dissolves.

To some people, loosing a best friend due to drifting apart can be hurtful and sad but it's part of life growing. Even for me, I've lost a few best friends and it's so much harder to find a replacement. My best friend back in school has her own friends now. My best friends from university have migrated. My close friends from previous company are married and have different goals now. My best friend now is...well I don't know. I guess objectives change. Among all my friends, I'm lucky that I have 1 friend who has been with me for 10 years and still stay the same. We have our problems along the way but somehow we keep coming back to each other and for this, I say THANK YOU.